Dating can be either frustrating or fantastic. When I try to help people, I always run into 2 types:


- The first group of people are open to advice and think that it's exciting and constructive to get some fresh new help with dating.

- The second types get extremely upset and insist that they 'DON'T NEED ANY DAMNED DATING ADVICE!'

The funny thing is that the second group are those who usually need advice the most. Believe me - I can tell whether a person is happy and satisfied with their dating/love life or not. In this second group there are a lot of people that have been without a passionate kiss or good sex for a while and whose dating life is in the doldrums.

How can they claim they don’t need some help? Don’t we all need help in tough times?

I think it’s because of ego or pride. They find it hard to look for help because they are embarrassed to admit, or refuse to accept, that they find the dating game very challenging and could do with a hand.

But that's STUPID! It’s like never learning to ride a bike because you refuse to start off with training wheels. The fact is, that dating and success with the opposite sex, means more to most people than the ability to ride a bike. So if you need dating training wheels, use them. At least you won't break your leg.

And this attitude won’t take them ANYWHERE.

It may be that they run into someone who is as frustrated as themselves and choose to settle down with them - but they never really gained control over their dating perspective. They find people more or less by luck and chance.

YOU CANNOT CHANGE THINGS THAT YOU HAVE NOT ACCEPTED!

Imagine a 30 stone person sitting at home all day, adamant that they don’t need to lose any weight. With that approach it will simply never happen. They will NEVER take the necessary actions. Enlightenment brings action. Realising weaknesses and where you need help, combined with the humility to ask for it, is the first step.

What have YOU not yet accepted? What is preventing YOU from taking the action you need, to get you the dating success or love life you deserve?

Consider this - it could be you (but of course it isn't – right?)

I took this picture with my iPhone 20 minutes ago at Malmö Central Station in Sweden. Civilian police officers arrested the man on the train and took him away in handcuffs, presumably because he tried to smuggle drugs.

And what can we learn from that?

There are many shortcuts in life, regarding money, fame and ... DATING!

I could easily tell you how to set up 10 dates with delicious people in here within 5 minutes.

It would however require that you lie and cheat....

...you may get away with it and achieve some temporary successes.

But for how long?

I believe that we should ultimately be held accountable for everything we do.

No... not up in the sky by a man with a big beard, but here on Earth, by our fellow humans... sooner or later.

In the dating world it is tempting to take shortcuts. But don't - you will be exposed sooner or later and if you are looking for love, trust is a must for all. Would you like to be deceived by a possible partner?

Of course you should present yourself from the best angle - strut-your-stuff. But be honest, sincere and treat others as you wish to be treated

I recently read an interesting book on Dating, particularly on the Language of Love (yes, I have read many weird books about dating). In the book the author wrote that there are 5 ways to express love and that we all have one primary way to feel loved. Having read it, I thought that I simply had to share it with you as another Dating.co.uk dating tip.

The 5 ways to express or feel love are:

1) Positive words – saying sweet nothings and words of love.

2) Physical contact – cuddles, hand-holding, kisses, massages etc.

3) Doing things for each other – helping out, doing the laundry, getting the shopping, cooking meals.

4) Spending quality time together – holidays, walks, sports, hobbies, common interests.

5) Gifts - Chocolates, flowers, surprise presents.

In itself it is quite interesting, but let's look at how you can use it in a dating context.

One of the main reasons for being in a relationship is to feel loved. When you are in a relationship and you do not feel loved, you begin to look elsewhere. Maybe you even start dating again. If, the on other hand, you are in a relationship and feel loved, but there is something else wrong within the relationship - you may still be inclined to stay with it (not that this is something I recommend).

What you must do is to find out how your date/boyfriend/girlfriend feels most loved. Is it by physical contact, by what you say, or when you dedicate your weekend to be with him/her? Maybe you already have a feel for it, but otherwise just ask: "How can I show you how much I love you".

It may well be that the answer is a bit cryptic, but see if you can solve it. Once you've found the answer, make sure that he/she ALWAYS feels loved and you'll be a long way towards a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship.

...and remember to let me hear how it goes, and let me know if there's anything else I can do to ensure your dating success

Dating is not always very logical. It is logical to be sweet, to do everything for her - being the good boy your mother tried to make you. It just does not work. Actually, I don’t think my writing is very logical. But it doesn't matter - because it works.
And you need to learn to focus on what's working and not on what makes sense, or what you've always done because you didn’t know any better. Try to do what I tell you without thinking about whether it makes sense - you will soon find out that it
works and begin to see a pattern. In fact, I'd almost recommend you always do the opposite of what you think you should do when you're with a woman. Have you ever been to a nightclub and seen the most stupid and unpleasant guys stealing all the fit girls? Does it make sense? No!

It was just a little note that came to mind, and I immediately had to write to you.

With love,

Jones Jitter

This dating tip is very important - it is deeply rooted in most guys and comes out every day in every little action when dating women.

My belief is that if you stop chasing women and instead learn how to attract them, you will up your dating results (offline and online) by a factor of 5 - every day!

Chasing woman means:

- Trying too hard to impress

- Saying and doing things only for attention

- Letting them decide what to do

- Calling and writing all the time

- Complementing them excessively for no reason

- Turning your whole focus on her as soon as she comes into the room

- Touching her too much at the start


Avoid all of the above. Sit back and enjoy life instead. Be the same laid-back guy you are when you're with your friends and give her the opportunity to get to know you.

The key thing in attracting her is that she cannot control the situation - she does not choose to be attracted to you, you just create the most amazing feelings in her that she cannot resist.

You attract her by:

- Teasing her

- Having fun

- Being dominant

- Not giving her too much attention until she has earned it

- Switching between giving her attention and ignoring her

Use your Sunday for dating - there are many people online at dating sites right now

With love,

Jones Jitter

A lot of people tell me that all my fancy "quick fix" dating advice works - but feels a little fake, since it all comes down to who you really are.

My view is that your car is who you are, and how good a seducer you are is how well you drive.

You could win in a crappy car if you were the best driver in the world.

You could also come in first if you were the worst driver in the world, but in the best car in the world.

But one thing is sure - you will come in first if you have the best car in the world AND you are the best driver.

My point is that you should learn about attraction - become as smooth as James Bond - and learn that super fancy opening line that will attract her to you right from the beginning. But you should also work on upgrading yourself.

If you became the best version of yourself in every possible way - the woman or man of your dreams will probably find you.

Here’s where you could improve:

- Your physical presence: You may not be Brad Pitt, but buy some nice clothes, take a bit more care of your appearance and work out more

- Your finances: It's a fact - life is easier when you have your finances sorted. Give your best at work and get that promotion, start your own company, get out of debt and start spending with your brain turned on.

- Your education: We all like educated people - as long as their education is used in a sexy, interesting and good way.

- Your personal development: Build your self-confidence, grow your self-esteem, and achieve inner peace.

- Family: You should love your mother

- Relationships: How good are you at relationships?

- Sex: How good are you in bed?

- Career/work: Do you love what you do every day?

- Spare time: Do you have fascinating hobbies, or do you chill on the couch with a pizza every night?

Try to rate yourself on a scale of 1-10 on all these areas.

Where could you improve?

If you could honestly say 10 to all of them, you would be able to point to every man or woman as your new significant other - that's for sure.

I know, I know, this is HARD WORK. Getting progress in all of these areas would probably take months, or even years. But hard work pays off. It's worth it. Not only to find the man or woman of your dreams - but for yourself too. So go and work on yourself, and enjoy my quick-fixes along the way. You'll then be on the road to greatness - and enjoy the ride at the same time!

Write to me or comment if you have questions

Love,

Jones Jitter

This one is for the guys.

Actually it’s pretty straight forward – girls get TONS of e-mails. Even the ones who are not quite models get bombarded with messages - it’s a fact.

That’s why you have to stand out.

Imagine that a girl got 30 e-mails today and all of them said the same thing. She might eventually find them rather boring. Now you decide to write to her and you write exactly the same thing. What do you think are your chances of a reply?

Let’s be honest, unless you look like Brad Pitt or are VERY rich, she’s probably not going to read more than the first 4 words before sighing deeply and deleting your message.

What you have to do is write something DIFFERENT.

“Different from what?” – you might ask.

Different from all the e-mails that everyone else is sending, like…
“Hi there - you look so cute!”

“I'm a sweet honest man and I have my own car!”

If you make it not only different, but also funny and as bold as hell, you’re almost guaranteed an answer.

But just ‘different’ works in most cases, since girls are so used to the same boring e-mails. She should be sending your mail to her best friend so they can laugh out loud in disbelief together. THAT’S how powerful your messages should be.

Drop me a message and let me know how it works out

With love,

Jones Jitter

All right boys and girls, we’re opening the doors and letting you into our dating nirvana. We’ve tried to build an absolutely explosive lean mean dating machine – and we hope you love it.

“We” are not some obscure business – we, the founders, are simply 3 guys who have used online dating for years and found it really valuable to have the option to click our way to a date 24/7.

All of us have found our girlfriends using online dating sites. We know how important it is to fill your life with love, so we’ve made it our mission in life to help everyone on this planet find their one-and-only. It’s a mission we intend to accomplish.

Now we’ve taken the first step. Let’s walk together and find your route to everlasting love.

The next steps may be easy and clear for some of you. There WILL be people among us who will just drop the most attractive member a message, get a positive response, meet up and get married a month later.

For others it may seem hard to even get a response – and we face up to that fact. We’ll help you to get to where you want to be.

Right now, we’ll do that through dating tips in this blog. Later on we’ll get more sophisticated.

Now let’s have some fun – and let me know where you want us to improve.

All the best,

Jones Jitter
Co-founder