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Dating Tip 5: How To Ensure That Your Boy-/Girlfriend Feels Loved
14 April 09
I recently read an interesting book on Dating, particularly on the Language of Love (yes, I have read many weird books about dating). In the book the author wrote that there are 5 ways to express love and that we all have one primary way to feel loved. Having read it, I thought that I simply had to share it with you as another Dating.co.uk dating tip.
The 5 ways to express or feel love are:
1) Positive words – saying sweet nothings and words of love.
2) Physical contact – cuddles, hand-holding, kisses, massages etc.
3) Doing things for each other – helping out, doing the laundry, getting the shopping, cooking meals.
4) Spending quality time together – holidays, walks, sports, hobbies, common interests.
5) Gifts - Chocolates, flowers, surprise presents.
In itself it is quite interesting, but let's look at how you can use it in a dating context.
One of the main reasons for being in a relationship is to feel loved. When you are in a relationship and you do not feel loved, you begin to look elsewhere. Maybe you even start dating again. If, the on other hand, you are in a relationship and feel loved, but there is something else wrong within the relationship - you may still be inclined to stay with it (not that this is something I recommend).
What you must do is to find out how your date/boyfriend/girlfriend feels most loved. Is it by physical contact, by what you say, or when you dedicate your weekend to be with him/her? Maybe you already have a feel for it, but otherwise just ask: "How can I show you how much I love you".
It may well be that the answer is a bit cryptic, but see if you can solve it. Once you've found the answer, make sure that he/she ALWAYS feels loved and you'll be a long way towards a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship.
...and remember to let me hear how it goes, and let me know if there's anything else I can do to ensure your dating success
The 5 ways to express or feel love are:
1) Positive words – saying sweet nothings and words of love.
2) Physical contact – cuddles, hand-holding, kisses, massages etc.
3) Doing things for each other – helping out, doing the laundry, getting the shopping, cooking meals.
4) Spending quality time together – holidays, walks, sports, hobbies, common interests.
5) Gifts - Chocolates, flowers, surprise presents.
In itself it is quite interesting, but let's look at how you can use it in a dating context.
One of the main reasons for being in a relationship is to feel loved. When you are in a relationship and you do not feel loved, you begin to look elsewhere. Maybe you even start dating again. If, the on other hand, you are in a relationship and feel loved, but there is something else wrong within the relationship - you may still be inclined to stay with it (not that this is something I recommend).
What you must do is to find out how your date/boyfriend/girlfriend feels most loved. Is it by physical contact, by what you say, or when you dedicate your weekend to be with him/her? Maybe you already have a feel for it, but otherwise just ask: "How can I show you how much I love you".
It may well be that the answer is a bit cryptic, but see if you can solve it. Once you've found the answer, make sure that he/she ALWAYS feels loved and you'll be a long way towards a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship.
...and remember to let me hear how it goes, and let me know if there's anything else I can do to ensure your dating success