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Dating Tip 7: Accept Your Dating Situation
15 April 09
Dating can be either frustrating or fantastic. When I try to help people, I always run into 2 types:
- The first group of people are open to advice and think that it's exciting and constructive to get some fresh new help with dating.
- The second types get extremely upset and insist that they 'DON'T NEED ANY DAMNED DATING ADVICE!'
The funny thing is that the second group are those who usually need advice the most. Believe me - I can tell whether a person is happy and satisfied with their dating/love life or not. In this second group there are a lot of people that have been without a passionate kiss or good sex for a while and whose dating life is in the doldrums.
How can they claim they don’t need some help? Don’t we all need help in tough times?
I think it’s because of ego or pride. They find it hard to look for help because they are embarrassed to admit, or refuse to accept, that they find the dating game very challenging and could do with a hand.
But that's STUPID! It’s like never learning to ride a bike because you refuse to start off with training wheels. The fact is, that dating and success with the opposite sex, means more to most people than the ability to ride a bike. So if you need dating training wheels, use them. At least you won't break your leg.
And this attitude won’t take them ANYWHERE.
It may be that they run into someone who is as frustrated as themselves and choose to settle down with them - but they never really gained control over their dating perspective. They find people more or less by luck and chance.
YOU CANNOT CHANGE THINGS THAT YOU HAVE NOT ACCEPTED!
Imagine a 30 stone person sitting at home all day, adamant that they don’t need to lose any weight. With that approach it will simply never happen. They will NEVER take the necessary actions. Enlightenment brings action. Realising weaknesses and where you need help, combined with the humility to ask for it, is the first step.
What have YOU not yet accepted? What is preventing YOU from taking the action you need, to get you the dating success or love life you deserve?
Consider this - it could be you (but of course it isn't – right?)
- The first group of people are open to advice and think that it's exciting and constructive to get some fresh new help with dating.
- The second types get extremely upset and insist that they 'DON'T NEED ANY DAMNED DATING ADVICE!'
The funny thing is that the second group are those who usually need advice the most. Believe me - I can tell whether a person is happy and satisfied with their dating/love life or not. In this second group there are a lot of people that have been without a passionate kiss or good sex for a while and whose dating life is in the doldrums.
How can they claim they don’t need some help? Don’t we all need help in tough times?
I think it’s because of ego or pride. They find it hard to look for help because they are embarrassed to admit, or refuse to accept, that they find the dating game very challenging and could do with a hand.
But that's STUPID! It’s like never learning to ride a bike because you refuse to start off with training wheels. The fact is, that dating and success with the opposite sex, means more to most people than the ability to ride a bike. So if you need dating training wheels, use them. At least you won't break your leg.
And this attitude won’t take them ANYWHERE.
It may be that they run into someone who is as frustrated as themselves and choose to settle down with them - but they never really gained control over their dating perspective. They find people more or less by luck and chance.
YOU CANNOT CHANGE THINGS THAT YOU HAVE NOT ACCEPTED!
Imagine a 30 stone person sitting at home all day, adamant that they don’t need to lose any weight. With that approach it will simply never happen. They will NEVER take the necessary actions. Enlightenment brings action. Realising weaknesses and where you need help, combined with the humility to ask for it, is the first step.
What have YOU not yet accepted? What is preventing YOU from taking the action you need, to get you the dating success or love life you deserve?
Consider this - it could be you (but of course it isn't – right?)