Well, I seemed doomed to long distance .... on an international scale, even intercontinental.
Yes, it can work. Some ground rules need establishing, like sharing airfares etc and planing ahead. It's hard on the heart, but it will reveal the level of commitment you each are prepared to take. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and there is something to be said for being forced to take things slowly. Only true love will overcome the scale of things.
It seems that I'm destined to travel a fair distance if things work out with someone on this site (not that many locals to be found in my area), so I guess the question is, how do people feel, on the whole, about distance dating/relationships?
On here, obviously it makes no difference because we're all a computer screen's distance away, but when it comes to the real thing, is it something people try not to get involved in?
I thought it was Absinthe that made the heart grow fonder!!! 
not that I've ever tried it, like
I seem to be getting a lot of Russian/South African attention...mostly scam-filled, but I agree with the committment and dedication. If its harder on the wallet than it is on the heart, then the heart makes the absence grow fonder.
But I guess, no one can plan on who/where/how, otherwise this dating thing would be much easier.
not that I've ever tried it, likeI seem to be getting a lot of Russian/South African attention...mostly scam-filled, but I agree with the committment and dedication. If its harder on the wallet than it is on the heart, then the heart makes the absence grow fonder.
But I guess, no one can plan on who/where/how, otherwise this dating thing would be much easier.
Distance does make things more difficult in some situations but then
I think anything can effect a relationship... A person's situation at home
for example, I know many people who instantly reject someone who
has children which is pretty sad in my opinion.
Personally I think if I had a major connection with someone then distance
would not be a problem, Love is worth it.
I think anything can effect a relationship... A person's situation at home
for example, I know many people who instantly reject someone who
has children which is pretty sad in my opinion.
Personally I think if I had a major connection with someone then distance
would not be a problem, Love is worth it.
The same with if someone hasn't moved out of home yet, which, let's face it, under the current housing market climate is on the increase these days
That is true too! Most guy's I know of my age group are at home unless
they have a child with someone in which case they have got a place.
It seems tragic to me that the only way some people can get a home is
by having a child. Thats not why people should be having children for.
they have a child with someone in which case they have got a place.
It seems tragic to me that the only way some people can get a home is
by having a child. Thats not why people should be having children for.
there are a lot of 'benefits' to having a child....not always benefits you would think of in the sense of pro's and con's but government contributions it would seem.
A guy next door to me is still living at home, he's in his 50's, but he's happy with that. he's not an overly outgoing person, fairly quiet, but I think if that's the way you are then you don't mind it so much. Nothing against him, but I wish I don't end up like that, and I'm only 20 years or so behind him....I'm not an overly outgoing person, but deep inside I want to be. So maybe taking the risk and moving out somewhere and having a cheap place I can call my own (albeit rented) is what I need to do. I often wonder where have the 20's gone, but in truth I know the answer is that i've wasted it by being so introverted.
OK, say on a first meeting in a distance date...would the general opinion be that the guy should make the effort and go to meet the woman, rather than ask or expect her to come all the way? Is meeting half way a acceptable consideration or, for a first date would either party prefer to have the security of being in familiar surroundings (if things were to go wrong)?
A guy next door to me is still living at home, he's in his 50's, but he's happy with that. he's not an overly outgoing person, fairly quiet, but I think if that's the way you are then you don't mind it so much. Nothing against him, but I wish I don't end up like that, and I'm only 20 years or so behind him....I'm not an overly outgoing person, but deep inside I want to be. So maybe taking the risk and moving out somewhere and having a cheap place I can call my own (albeit rented) is what I need to do. I often wonder where have the 20's gone, but in truth I know the answer is that i've wasted it by being so introverted.
OK, say on a first meeting in a distance date...would the general opinion be that the guy should make the effort and go to meet the woman, rather than ask or expect her to come all the way? Is meeting half way a acceptable consideration or, for a first date would either party prefer to have the security of being in familiar surroundings (if things were to go wrong)?
For me personally I think half way is very fair to both parties concerned
but I always make a point of it being in a very public place even if it someone
i've me before on a previous night out.
I guess to be honest its very hard to trust people these days, Girls like me tend
to worry after all the tabloid reports of internet dating and the bad things that
have happened!
But it is a judgemental pendulum that swings both ways, I know many male friends
who get messed about and strung along by girls... So personally I think a half way
meeting point along with paying half on things is the best option, Keep it fun, Social and
in public and all shall be well.
but I always make a point of it being in a very public place even if it someone
i've me before on a previous night out.
I guess to be honest its very hard to trust people these days, Girls like me tend
to worry after all the tabloid reports of internet dating and the bad things that
have happened!
But it is a judgemental pendulum that swings both ways, I know many male friends
who get messed about and strung along by girls... So personally I think a half way
meeting point along with paying half on things is the best option, Keep it fun, Social and
in public and all shall be well.
why thank you, i do have the odd glimmer of wisdom from time to time lmao
I'm also one of those who has to consider a long distance relationship. It's all fairly relative. I live in Denmark which is not a big land by any means. The island I live on is no bigger than Essex and yet dating someone from the southern coast is almost unthinkable. If I lived in Essex dating someone from North England would be doable. If I lived in New York dating someone from California would be an option. So it seems that the smaller the area in which you live the less inclined people are to be flexible.... Unless you're someone who has already experienced living abroad.
Dating can lead to a life long commitment. The distance and difficulties can make the adventure all that more interesting and opens up possibilities people might never have considered. It also says a lot about a persons character. If they can't be bothered to look further than the bottom of their street then their not likely to be committed enough to ride the waves life throws at us. If they're adventurous enough to take on the challenges of a long distance relationship then the chances are they'll be a far more reliable life companion.
Dating can lead to a life long commitment. The distance and difficulties can make the adventure all that more interesting and opens up possibilities people might never have considered. It also says a lot about a persons character. If they can't be bothered to look further than the bottom of their street then their not likely to be committed enough to ride the waves life throws at us. If they're adventurous enough to take on the challenges of a long distance relationship then the chances are they'll be a far more reliable life companion.
I understand where you're coming from with small land, big travel committments. Even in Wales, its a 4 hour journey by train or car from the north (where I am) down south to Cardiff because there is no direct route via train or road. Its almost as quick to go to London as it is to Cardiff. But as you say...put in the time then the rewards can pay off.